The married life in Islam by Faisal Adib

The love that ends in the life of this world cannot be love. At least I don't think that any husband in the world can show his wife the amount that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) loved his wives!

 According to Islamic law, a woman's last husband in this world will be her life partner in Paradise;  If both of them can take that amount of deeds. And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade his wives to marry someone else after his death. How much love can a man have for his wife in this world and in the hereafter? This level of love is unlimited.  ;  Which cannot be measured with anything on earth.

 After marriage, there is a lot of quarrels between husband and wife, but in married life, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never raised his hand at least once, even when he was talking about his wife's face.  How to be an ideal husband? Her marital life was full of quarrels, anger and arrogance, but it never deteriorated the relationship, but as always, the unbreakable bond of the relationship was revealed. Many think they were free from it;  Which is a complete misconception!

 Once he got angry with his wives and left the house.  The purpose of his departure was to lead a normal life as a leader of the Muslim world at the time, but the ordinary life he preferred was as offensive to his wives as ever.

 Women usually want a happy family after marriage where there will be no smell of scarcity. And when women are the wife of someone from an aristocratic family, it is normal to have a little more hobbies. The mentality of the wives of the Prophet was not above that.  The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was angry and left his wife at home for one day, two days and nine months in a row, then his wives realized their mistake and became ashamed and ashamed. To each wife, the husband's love is above everything else in the world.

 When he returned home on the 29th day, his wife Hazrat Ayesha (R) asked in a haughty tone, "It is not yet 30 months" [that is, not 30 days]. He replied, "The month is also 29 days".  The pride was all cut off.  Maya had so much love for his wives! Such is the love;  No one can imagine a moment without someone.

 When the first wife Hazrat Khadija (RA) passed away, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was devastated by her grief.  R. was jealous of it.

 Love is that love can understand each other's anger, arrogance. Once the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, O Ayesha, "When you are angry with me, I can understand it. Ayesha was surprised and asked how it?  He said, "When you are pleased with me, when you pray to God, say, 'O Lord of Muhammad! That is it.' And when you are angry with me, say, 'O Lord of Abraham!

 Ayesha then said, "You are telling the truth. When I am angry with you, I just omit your name."

 Even then, the Prophet did not speak harshly to her. Where there is love, anger and arrogance do not last long. Is that so? He also ran a race with his wife.  Won? Rasul was a little old then and Ayesha was of light build. Therefore Ayesha lost before Rasul and won.

 Later, on another visit, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) showed interest in running for revenge. Then 'Aa'ishah became a little fatter than before, so the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) lost her. Such was the honeymoon after their marriage.

 He also rode his horse on his shoulders. Even during his menstrual period, his wife used to put her mouth on the glass and drink from it. She also used to put her mouth on the glass where her wife used to put her mouth and suck on her bones.  He used to help her with household chores. He used to wash his own clothes. He never insulted his wife. He never said harsh words when cooking was bad. He also did not say that cooking was bad or he didn't like it so he didn't eat.  No complaints about food came out of his mouth.

 Once during the journey, his wife lost her necklace. But he did not stop looking for it until his wife said in her mouth, "O Messenger of Allah, stop looking for the necklace. There have been many." He even put all the companions on the journey to look for the necklace.  However, there was no defeat. Meanwhile, the time for prayer was almost over. Everyone was worried because there was not enough water to perform ablution. Then, for the first time in the history of the world, the verse of Tawammum was revealed from Allah. This proves that Allah respects the love of husband and wife.  .

 [Although the necklace was under the camel, it was found later]

 Once Hazrat Ayesha was talking loudly with the Prophet.  Then Abu Bakr, the father of Ayesha, was passing by the house. He got angry and became arrogant to kill his daughter by talking loudly to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Because he could not bear the insult of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).  Not with!

 When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) himself stood in front of Abu Bakr (ra) and saved his wife from his father's hand, Abu Bakr (ra) left the house in a rage.  While talking to the husband, how high was the mercury of the husband's mood when he stood up again to save his wife? Then he knew what Ayesha said to him?

 He said, "What do you remember? I saved you from being beaten." Later, the two became reconciled. If the relationship is intact, the details of the world can never cause a rift in the relationship. In many ways, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was harsh but  Every moment of her married life was so sweet;  Which will make anyone interested in reading.

 Another time Ayesha complained against the Prophet to her father.  Unable to control himself, Abu Bakr slapped his daughter on the cheek. A few days later, while the Prophet and Ayesha were laughing at home, Abu Bakr came to the house as he passed by the house and said,  Make me your companion on the day of rejoicing. "

 There is no family that does not have quarrels in the world. But at the same time reunion is the manifestation of true love;  The best example of which we get from the life of the Prophet. In today's age, most of the stories we read about marital life are full of obscenity;  Maybe any part of the wife's body is made more attractive or the wife is called as a housemaid. However, the most important thing is the responsibility of the husband and wife towards each other, the holy moments are not described anywhere. And the only Prophet Sallallahu  Its full teachings can be found in the life of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

 The world should have learned from us what kind of love we should have for our wives! But, today, the worlds of most of our brothers and sisters have become fragile. Divorce, divorce seems to be a daily occurrence. However, it is stated in the hadith,  "

 What is the reason for this? Why is halal so disliked by Allah?

 Because, God never wants;  Let's break up a sacred relationship like marriage because of the slightest misunderstanding, the nuances! Moreover, as a result of divorce, the relationship between two families is ruined forever, after divorce, it becomes haraam for both of them;  But when the intimate moments of marriage float in front of the eyes again and again, both are drowned in the sea of ​​adultery and even the emotional happiness is lost!

 There is also evidence from a saheeh hadeeth as to why divorce is inferior to halal. In this saheeh Muslim hadeeth, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Shaytaan puts his throne on the water.  They go back and describe their most heinous deeds. Some say: 'I have led such and such a person astray.' Some say: 'I have caused such and such a person to commit this sin.' Satan says to them: 'You have done nothing.  Finally, someone came and said: "I have caused a quarrel between a man and his wife, and they have even parted ways." Satan then shrugged his shoulders and said: "Yes, you have done a good deed."  216, Musnad Ahmad-3/314, 315]

 This means that there is no work in the world that makes a believer happy as much as the devil is happy when a happy family is destroyed. Even if a believer leaves Islam and becomes an apostate, the devil is not so happy. But what is the reason for such happiness?  Yes!

 * If the relationship breaks down, the husband and wife will want to prove their innocence by publicizing each other's faults and shortcomings to the society;  In this, backbiting, that is, eating the flesh of one's own dead brother, such heinous poets will be involved in sin!

 * It is difficult to control oneself after divorce.  He will be involved in innumerable sins due to the persecution of youth till the second marriage.

 * Fornication will then become a daily sin. For, always the memory of coming to them in each other's absence will float away;  But he is imagining someone who is forbidden to him at that moment!

 * At that time, it is very easy for the devil to get used to haraam like alcohol, cigarettes and gambling.

 Where so many birds can be killed in one fell swoop, the devil's dam is to be happy. "Divorce" is the only halal;  Which can give birth to innumerable harams which cannot be imagined. Moreover, breaking up about can ruin one's whole life.

 This is probably why the devil prefers this act. "Divorce" is halal that pleases the devil;  He who is happy does not get it even in the midst of haraam. And undoubtedly what is more pleasing to Satan is worse than Allah! If there was no need for divorce, then maybe Allah would have declared divorce haraam first!

 However, we have found the Messenger who was entrusted with the task of conveying the teachings of the Oneness of God to the whole world. He is the Messenger who showed the practice of good manners for every sector of the world, social, state, political.  Whose perfection was the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). That is why he is the greatest human being in the world!

 He did not neglect his wife in his private life as he had such a big responsibility in the whole world, in the midst of all this he took enough time to show his love for his wife out of only 63 years of his life!

 Because the man who left his whole world just for you and even left his parents away to enlighten your world, whose whole responsibility is now in your hands if you neglect such a selfless man, God will never forgive such a great injustice if you deliberately hurt him.  !

 That is why the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) went on to define a good person and said, "That person is good who is good to his family."

 Your good manners will not be revealed by your dealings with outsiders, but by how well you treat your wife, with whom you are in a separate room at a certain time.

 The Prophet loved his wife so much, was so aware of his wife's rights;  What did he get from his wives in return?  Yes, they loved him equally.  That is why she never disobeyed her husband, disobeyed her husband's veil order till the last moment of her life, even after her husband's death, they did not have a second marriage for the rest of their lives;  Who would want to lose such a lucky husband in Paradise? The love you give to your wife will surely come back to you;  Yes, of course if that love is for the pleasure of Allah.

 Once a Maulana said in one of his Wazes, after hearing the praises of the Prophet's married life, the wife of a Mufti came and said, "Maulana; today is the first day of our married life when my husband did not touch me". We should be sorry!  The world is a piece of hell. What did the Prophet leave for us and what did we accept?

 The Prophet's love for his children was incomparable.  Hazrat Fatima (RA) used to stand up and hold her hand and let her sit down. She also taught her father how much love he should have for his child. However, today the relationship between parents and children is strained.  I don't understand, again the child does not care about the orders and prohibitions of the parents.

 All these are the rights of the servant which Allah will not forgive. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did his duty in this regard and taught the ummah. If we do not fulfill our duty towards our wives and children today,  All Amal;  He will give our wife and children to establish justice for destroying the rights of slaves. This family, these children will make us poor;  Because our Lord will establish justice on that day no matter what. No one will have the right to stop him.

 On the other hand, if someone spends behind his wife and children, if he keeps them with love, all these will come back to us as charity. Even if we can leave a good child, not only the world but also our death will continue to add thawab to our record  It will be possible to feel it only when it reaches that situation.