Neglect of youth society in friend selection

"Bangladesh's lockdown is a lot ---

 Like the veiled girl of the 1st year of the university. It is slowly opening up in a limited size ... "

 The word was not mine, it was given as a fan post on a varsity page, and there were hundreds of comments in support!

 I don't know how much the word made you think. But I didn't just think, reality showed me with my fingers in my eyes.

 Not only Apu, but I have seen the condition of many fairly pious, even Hafez brothers. First, he shortened his beard, then trimmed it, finally saved it, changed his clothes radically, and there are many examples of irregularities in basic worship.

 As a reason for this, you may say in simple words, the effect of the environment. Yes, it is true.

 Naturally, there is an interest in adapting to the new environment. Many people forget the Islamic norm of choosing friends in an attempt to make friends.

 It should be noted that having a good relationship with everyone and being taken as a friend is not the same thing. In Islam, just as it is said to treat everyone well, the importance of choosing a good friend has been emphasized.

 The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Man follows the customs of his friend.  So each of you should take care of who he is befriending.

 Many people say 'friend will walk like him, I will walk like me'. In fact, this rarely survives. In fact, how many people can survive like that?

 At first, many were self-conscious, but gradually his friend's actions, words, and attitudes were affected.

 The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) explained its importance fourteen and a half years ago with beautiful examples.

 He said: ‘The example of an honest and dishonest friend is like that of a perfumer and a blacksmith.  The perfumer may give you a little perfume, or you may buy perfume from him, or you may smell perfume from him.  And the blacksmith may burn your body or your clothes, or you may smell bad.

 The onset of guilty feelings about having the affair, in the first place, further zaps whatever energy the partner having the affair might still have left.

 For example, many people know about downloading porn videos from cyber cafes through friends while they are at school.

 Well, do the following words seem very unfamiliar?

 'Mamma ,,, if you share the link ...

 'Let's kill two packs ...

 'Isn't the girl Jose? ...

 'There is a concert like this, it will be extreme today ...

 What kind of friends are these everyday conversations?

 Many people try to come back from sin out of remorse. But the sad truth is that it doesn't last long because they don't leave their friends.

 Because, in the chat where the topic of discussion is false, non-mahram woman / man, illicit relationship, movie, drug, there is remembrance of Allah, thinking about sin can be called akashkusum fantasy. Then one's own sin seems to be a very common thing.

 Another extremely sad act of these friends is to share their sins with everyone. On the one hand, for example, they are making witnesses of their own sins and on the other hand, they are influencing others towards that sin.

 In this regard, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "All my ummah will be forgiven, except the sinners. Another type of revelation is that a person commits a sin at night, which Allah keeps secret. But in the morning he goes out and says,  I have done this tonight. 'But he spent the night in such a state that Allah hid his sins. But he got up in the morning and opened the veil of Allah over him.'

 If you stay in such a chat for a while, you will find the truth of my words. I rush towards my oppression through my friends with great care (although that is not the purpose).

 Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): ‘On that day the tyrant will bite his two hands and say,‘ Alas, if I had not accepted such and such as a friend.

 Think about it, brother, don't you need a friendship that reminds you of God, regrets your negligence, and wants to be together in Paradise, with whom you can feel a different kind of peace in your heart?

 When you see them, you are reminded of the neglected Sunnat practices that are lost from you. You feel the utmost caution about the duties.

 And regarding such friends,

 The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "On the Day of Resurrection, Allah will say, 'Where are the friends of each other because of My dignity (obedience)? Today I will shelter them under My shadow. On the Day when there will be no shadow except My shadow.'  (Muslim)

 Many people do not have the right plans or goals for friendship.

 While a good friend can be a guide to the path to paradise, on the contrary, under the influence of a bad friend, we can reach the gates of hell.

 In this case, some inexperienced advice to brothers / sisters one.  Before you move to a new environment, be mentally prepared for the situation there. Remember, ‘Do not choose anyone other than a believer as a companion or friend’.  [Tirmidhi]

 Two.  Keep looking to find a deendar or a good friend. And understand the verse,

 "O you who believe, fear Allah and be with those who are truthful."

 Three.  After finding such friends, express your attitude to them. And express that you love him for the sake of Allah. Say, [Uhibbuka Fillah].

 The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: He who loves (someone) for the sake of Allaah (satisfaction) and hates for the sake of Allaah, gives or does not give for the sake of Allaah, has fulfilled his faith. '[Abu Dawood]

 Four.  Build a platform among yourselves so that you do not have to face the apostates.

 Some examples taken from one's own life:

 Circles: I have made separate groups for academic and different work. Even if there are different circles online, you need offline circles for frustration, sorrow, decision. Those who will give you the right advice for the purpose of pleasing Allah.

 Books: We have formed groups to exchange Islamic books among ourselves. (There are many who lag behind in Islamic knowledge, teaching literature on the pretext of being lazy or not buying, as a reminder)

 Karje Hasana: There are plans to launch 'Karje Hasana' project to solve their financial problems (InshaAllah).

 Believe me I am satisfied that I got a group at varsity to please Allah.

 Whenever I am about to slip into the mirage of the mirage and worldly preoccupation, (Wallahi) they act as a reminder for me. I am encouraged to do good deeds.

 At the same time, the combined effort of Dawa's forgotten friends is a great advantage.

 Another great example is this "pulpit" group. Think about it, this is also a friend of yours.

 As soon as you scroll through the newsfeed, it calls you to paradise, warns you from hell, and comes up with Islamic solutions to contemporary problems. Everyone here is your religious friend. Just like the oppressors make friends among themselves.

 Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

 "And verily, the Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers) are friends of one another, and Allah is the Friend of the Muttaqun (the pious)."

 God says about your religious friends,

 'On that day, friends will be enemies to one another, except the pious.' 

 To the guardians:

 Teach your children to choose friends from an early age.

 There is a proverb, bamboo is not raw, it is thick when ripe ".

 I have seen many parents blame their friends after the child has gone astray when they grow up, but when it was time to teach and encourage, they should have done it.

 The measure of friendship is teaching in the light of Islam. Try to understand the words of the Lord of the Worlds:

 ‘O you who believe!  Do not take your father and your brothers as close friends, if they love disbelief more than faith.

 Decide what the friend will look like.

 Imam Ghazzali (RA) said, ‘I want to have five qualities in whomever I make friends with.  And that is - ‘intelligence, possessing an honest disposition, not being a sinner, not being a heretic and not being worldly. To be be careful who you don't make friends with.

 Imam Zafar al-Sadiq (R) said, ‘It is not proper to make friends with five people.  They are liars, ignorant, cowards, sinners and miserly people.

 Above all, don't be discouraged by the thought that there is no one like you. Maybe someone else is looking for you.  And if that doesn't happen, it's still a way to get more involved a good friend is better than a lonely loneliness and loneliness is better than a bad friend.

 [Choose a friend to befriend Allah. Don't be fooled ... InshaAllah]

 

Neglect of youth society in friend selection 

 

Md. Ehsanuddin Jewel