Marriage - Youth problems and solutions

 Marriage

 1) An act of worship.

 2) The bond of a sacred relationship

 3) A blessed circumcision.

 In the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and his Companions, it was considered as Sunnah.  Alas, we have reached the extreme peak of ignorance by making it a calamity by different Hindu culture, subculture, different demands of society, rusum, customs.

 Sunnat has made marriage as easy and difficult as we have done.  This is making the haram relationship easier.  At the end of the day, the result is filth, shame and the punishment of the terrible fire of hell in the hereafter.

 In a society where marriage is difficult, adultery is easy.  So let's promise we don't make worship a problem anymore. Let's talk about marriage - its problems and solutions.  This will change our mentality. Change will come. InshaAllah.

 Why job is a hindrance

 At the time of marriage both the bride and the guardian are looking for a boy who has a government job or has a good business.  No one is willing to marry someone who is studying or has not yet got a job or started a business, the future of the girl depends on the government job.

 Where there is no guarantee that I will live tomorrow, how do we become desperate for a permanent job?  Can't we trust in God about what will happen in the future?

 At present, no father in our society would want his daughter to marry you without a job. And without a job, your family will not marry you.

 You also want to say, let the job be one. Then marriage. Basically this thought is set in your head.  Think a little differently;  Suppose you don't have a job. You have a wife at home. Wouldn't you like to have a good career? Wouldn't you have a sense of responsibility?

 Yes!  Of course.  Of course you will shoulder your responsibility without any pressure.  And that is masculinity.

 Marriage is not an obstacle here. Rather, the open environment of the country is not only an obstacle for you but also dangerous.  How long will you keep yourself well in this age of illegitimate relationships, obscenity, arrogance, new ignorance?  Rather if at this time the beloved man of love (wife, wife, life partner) is with you, then you stand on your own two feet.  What a great plan it is.  Husbands and wives should be faithful partners in building a good career.  Doesn't that seem like a dream? But think about it, isn't such innocent love better than the current illegitimate love?

 Do you know the fruits of illicit love now?

 Dustbin, drain, immature on the path

 Newborn corpses, suicide, murder, rape, divorce, extramarital affairs, marital strife, etc.

 In a society where marriage is difficult, illegal love, rape, adultery and immorality naturally increase, which is happening every day in our society.

 So we want a change in the complexity of marriage. A change in the social system.

 May the wisdom of the parents rise.

 That is why we must put our trust in God.  Remember that we have brought our sustenance from Allah.  Trying to figure out whether the son has a job, a business, how much money he has in a bank balance, whether he has a car or a house, we take the marriage to such a complicated stage that later the age of marriage passes.  We have to get out of this place and make marriage easier. May Allah grant us Tawfiq.

 Subculture in the name of engagement

 Engagement, if you like to see the bride before the wedding, the groom puts the ring on the bride's hand.  This is a foreign culture.  Islam never supports it.  It is forbidden in Islam.

 Through the engagement ceremony, the bride and groom are given open permission to meet privately in a hotel restaurant.  They were left together under one roof.  Later they date in different parks.

 Simply put, engagement ceremonies are licensed for free association and adultery, which is enough to destroy a civilized society and culture.  Regrettably, these foreign subcultures have infiltrated our Muslim society as well.

 But yes, boys and girls can talk to each other about something important, but then there must be a guardian presence.  If you like each other, then tell me if you have anything to say.  But phone numbers cannot be exchanged.  At least we have to wait till Akad or marriage. Once Akad is done, there will be no more obstacles. In the eyes of Islam, then husband and wife will be.

 They are considered to be after-men or after-women for each other till the time of engagement.  In the eyes of Islam, it is not lawful for men and women to have a small relationship.  It is completely haram for men and women to talk on the phone or in solitude.

  The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, "No man should associate with another woman in solitude, for then the third of them is Shaytaan."

  In the Holy Qur'an, Allah Ta'ala says that all women have been made lawful for you except these [mahram].  The condition is that you will summon them in exchange for your money, not to commit adultery.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, "If any one of you sees a woman [when sexual desire is aroused], let her come to his wife, because it removes what is in his mind."

 From the verses and hadiths in question, it is understood that the condition for a girl to be legal is to get married.  Any kind of intercourse before marriage is considered adultery.  For the sake of modernity, no illicit relationship can be had before marriage in the name of engagement.

 It contaminates human life and brings terrible consequences.  Therefore, in order to get rid of the poisonous stigma of subculture, it is necessary to coordinate religious education in the field of education.  Educated society needs to be aware and vocal.  Islamic culture must be practiced at all levels of society.

  We have to break the barrier of subculture and revive the Islamic ideology.  It must be followed in all areas of life.

 ‌ Likes and dislikes

 Mahram is like going to see the cows of the sacrifice, mahram in Gair is the custom of giving a ring to the bride without judging the bride.  What a situation.

 Again, whatever the bride is, the bride has to be beautiful, tall and perfect.

 It has been narrated in Hadith,

 Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Marry women (usually) on the basis of four things: their wealth, their lineage, their appearance, their beauty and their religion.  Otherwise you will be humiliated.

 That is, women are usually married on the basis of their four qualities. For example, their beauty, wealth, lineage, dignity and piety. However, if you do not give priority to piety will be harmed.

 Deendar means his virtue i.e. God-fearing, Deendarism. If you are looking for a real Deendar bride or groom for the pleasure of Allah, then you must give priority to Deendarism.

 Now if one wants to be successful in both worlds (in this world and in the hereafter), if one wants to have an eye-cooling wife or child, then he must give priority to the fourth quality.

 If you have to give a discount, you can give the first three discounts. No matter you may want to get married to find beauty, again, he has no objection to want to get married after seeing his wealth and money.

 Similarly, if you want to marry a decent girl of good nobility, you can do it, Islam allows you. But if you want to be blessed with the pleasure and mercy of Allah or to be successful in this world and in the Hereafter, then you must get married with piety or God-fearing piety. If you give up the other three, Allah will make you self-reliant InshaAllah. May Allah give us all the Tawfiq to get His satisfaction and welfare by choosing the right life partner.

  Mehedi Knight's arrogance

 Muslim boys and girls "yellow on the skin"

 Or "yellow reception".

 Today we will talk about a sin that no young man or woman in our society has

 The work has not been done in the shadow of their parents!

 Or the "yellow on the body"!

 What we see in our society today is the traditional yellow ceremony!

 A girl (bride) is displayed on the stage, and the girl is on the side

 And the visitors on both sides of the boy (pot) side are one in the wholesale rate

 Gair mahram touching the girl's body!

  Is that all?  It can even be seen that the bridegroom makes the groom take a bath starting from applying turmeric.  Like the groom is a child who has just landed on earth or he is disabled.  That does not have the power to do anything with its own hands.

 That is again in the presence of their respective guardians!  Innalillah !!!

 More catastrophic activities than this

 What can happen in a Muslim society!

 The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to tell all the female Companions to leave the mosque after the men, so that men and women could not go together, so that men and women could go out.

 It does not become monotonous!  However, the prayers one fell out of the mosque Muslims and hearts of this age

 We all know how the situation is!

 Even then, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not leave any respite!  And, think about it today, the yellow ones on our society today

 What is happening in the name, does it agree with Sharia!

 They can be seen again

 Sometimes there are many Haji-Ghazi Namazi people!  And many have organized or fueled their son and daughter's wedding!

 More that is offensive

 It happens in all those programs, bringing different singers and playing remix songs in the name of concert at 12 o'clock of your faith period!  And it can be heard that some of them have improved their economic situation in those occasions, "colored water" is also provided! And the pilgrims and the worshipers are begging for the affection of the children for Batsal Abdar! These false arguments will not last forever.  Keep all of us away from fitna. Amen.

   Gate holders vs. smart beggars

 Some of the nonsense in marriage is forced to follow the superstitions and customs of the past, for which sometimes the joy of marriage is ruined.

 The most annoying thing to see is when the new bridegroom enters the ceremony, the gate is held for the purpose of salute. Believe me, it seems that some smart beggars want to beg.

 No matter how huge the salutation is given the bride has to look her best during this time, because of posterity more than anything else.  He started whispering, he only gave five thousand rupees. Is it so little money?

 No one cares how much money the groom has then. The groom may then discover himself as a zoo animal.

 The bride's party demanded a large sum of money, and at the groom's insistence, the marriage became extremely difficult.

 Due to these subcultures, marriage becomes difficult and complicated in our society.  As a result, young people become nightclub-oriented, which is why divine punishment called corona comes down from the sky.

The dowry is blue

 Thus our society is moving towards ignorance day by day.  Of course a special educated class of society is responsible for this.  Because they have given birth to or are going through some prejudices in society, the effects of which sometimes turn people into animals!  And one of those superstitions is called "dowry".  Due to the dowry, separation is happening between thousands of couples in the society.  As a result, the child is a lost mother, a suffering humanity.  Today in place of dowry if the rulers of the society would accept the Sunnah-based marriage!  Maybe an elderly father didn't have to reach out to people to marry his daughter.  Of course, what Islamic Sharia has declared completely illegal, our society has given it complete legitimacy!  That is why today's civil society makes slogans in favor of a joke called dowry.

 Our mothers and sisters are the most oppressed in the society by falling prey to dowry.  It can be said that the rulers of the society have become a kind of hostage.  But then it feels sad!  When our mothers and sisters think of marriage for their son or brother, they think first of what will be obtained from the bride, leaving out the words of the bride!  Alas!

 Even after marriage we carry different things from the father-in-law's house on the occasion of different seasons.  For example, harvest on the day of harvest, winter cake on the day of winter, iftar during Ramadan, clothes during Eid, cows and goats during sacrifice are taken by the groom.  So in a word, it would not be wrong to call dowry a disease of society.  Dowry is pushing a society towards destruction just as disease is pushing a person to the brink of death.

 Therefore, my request to all, do not say the disease of society called dowry. Develop an anti-dowry attitude. Then you will see that marriage will be much easier.

  Bridegroom vs. Walima

  I felt the need to highlight what Khandaker Abdullah Jahangir (R) said about eating as a bridegroom.

 It is haraam for a bridegroom to oppress the bride's father and eat.  The boy's father asked the girl's father, Mr. Beai, how many people will come?

 The girl's father calculated to feed her according to his ability and replied that, let's have fifty people!

 The boy's father was shocked to hear this and replied, "Mr. Beai!"  My son has many friends.  If only fifty people, then the respect is absolutely over!

 Then the girl's father wanted to know the boy's father, how many will come then Mr. Beai? The boy's father replied, 100-200 people will not go!

 Your son has a lot of friends, you feed him. Why would you extort money from someone else's house?  If one of the bridegrooms is taken against the wishes of the bride's father, it will be haram like dowry.

 Aha !!  What a miserable food we eat.

 Walima is a greeting party that brings together relatives and neighbors on the occasion of marriage.  The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) attached special importance to this feast.

 It is known from a hadith in Bukhari that after migrating to Medina, Abdur Rahman Ibn Awf got married and then the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to him: “May Allaah bless you in this matter.  Now, even if you have a goat, do it. ”

 When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) married Zaynab bint Jahash, he slaughtered a goat and became a scholar.

 It is sunnat for the party of the bridegroom to be performed by Alima.  However, the bride can also do such a ceremony.  The ceremony has to be done according to one's ability.  The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to arrange the work of the ulema sometimes with meat and sometimes only with dates.  Arranging expensive banquets for exhibitions beyond one's means is against Islamic principles.

 All the rich and the poor should be invited to the feast of Alima.  The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

 "The worst feast is the feast of the ulema, where only the rich are invited, and the poor are excluded."

 It is the duty of a Muslim to attend the feast of Alima after receiving the invitation.  The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "If any one of you is invited to the wedding, let him accept it and attend it."

 However, no work outside the Islamic culture and free association of men and women can be arranged in this program.  The provisions of the full screen must be complied with.  Foreign cultures cannot be followed.

 May Allah grant us Tawfiq, Amen.

 Waste in marriage, another trap of the devil

 Many people are seen carrying extra burden of debt on their shoulders to spend extra on marriage.  And it is done in various ways.

 Such as:

 1 / Print expensive wedding invitation card.

 2 / Rental of restaurants and community centers.

 3 / Just buy outerwear for the wedding, which is never worn later.

 4 / wasting food, wasting food, throwing it away etc.  In fact, this is done not for the sake of honoring the guests, but for the sake of expressing wealth and nobility.

 5 / Pour a lot of money under the feet of dancers in the wedding ceremony.  But many Muslims are dying without eating.

 6 / Girls spend a lot of money on wedding attire.  The main purpose is to show people!

 Refrain from these activities.  Protect yourself and take account of yourself before Allah takes account.  Because,

 The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said,

 On the Day of Resurrection, a person will not be able to move a single step until he is asked about his life: what he has spent it on, what he has learned about it: how much he has done, he will be asked about his wealth: where he earned it and  Where did they spend it and they will be asked about the body: where did they use it. '

 In the eyes of the Shari'ah, these are completely Haram and Najaiz.  There is no blessing in such a marriage.  Like marriage, the act of thawab becomes a sin.  It is narrated in the Hadith that when arrogance spreads among a nation in such a way that they start committing shameless acts in public, a disease including plague-epidemic will spread among them whose name has never been heard before.

 For example, the Corona virus has spread all over the world today.

 In fact, these are the punishments from our Lord for us! All the chaos in the world is due to our bad deeds.  All this is the work of our hands. We become honest at the individual level, become good 'people' - Allah Ta'ala will make our world environment peaceful, InshaAllah.  May Allah protect us all from this plague, Amen.

 It is also a sin to light fireworks, crackers, etc., like playing music.  Apart from being useless, there are other types of damage including loss of life and property.

 No more waste, let us surrender to the great Lord. This is the welfare and happiness for us - rich.

  Excess Denmohar is the virus of society

 In a Muslim marriage, the dowry is the amount of money that the wife receives from the husband, which is an essential payment given by Allah Ta'ala.  It is the duty of the husband to pay the dowry to the wife at the time of marriage.

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 Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

 “And give your wives their dowries as they please.  However, if the wife wants, she can give up some part or the whole part of the denomination.  [Surah An-Nisa ': 4]

 However, no pressure can be put on the wife in this regard.  In general, it is desirable to set a lower denomination.

 In addition, another verse of the Qur'an says about the right of the seal, ‘O Prophet!  I have made lawful for you your wives, whose dowry you have paid. '

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 There is no blessing in taking the issue of Denmohar lightly and imposing ‘more Denmohar’ to show people.  Rather, it is indicative of arrogance.

 Describing the blessed marriage, Hazrat Ayesha Siddiqa (may Allah be pleased with her) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said,

 However, it is clear that it is the duty of every husband to determine the dowry in harmony with both parties, keeping in view his financial ability and the dignity of his wife.  And the girl's side should also fully agree on the equivalence, refrain from introducing inferior mentality by setting huge amount of money.

But at present, Kanepaksha sets a huge amount of money only for public display.  So that people can proudly say in the society, the girl's denomination is so many lakhs or so crores !!  Basically, no one has time to think about whether he can give a boy!  Being able to speak proudly in front of everyone is like satisfaction.

 But the dowry of Fatima Razi, the daughter of Rasulullah 7, was five hundred dirhams.  For example, Muhammad ibn Ibrahim.  Describes,

 The dowry of Rasulullah's daughters and wives was five hundred dirhams, that is, one and a half times.

 The dowry should not be more than five hundred dirhams.  It was the seal of the wives and daughters of Rasulullah.

 The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, "Whoever marries a girl with the promise of a dowry, but does not want to pay a dowry, will be obliged to stand before Allaah on the Day of Resurrection as an adulterer."  - Musnad Ahmad

 In this connection it has been narrated in Hadith Sharif that there is no seal less than 10 dirhams (Bayhaqi Sharif, 8/240).

 

 The most common amount in our society for denomination is the seal Fatemi.

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 The seal is called Fatemi to determine the amount of seal that was fixed for Hazrat Fatima, the daughter of Rasulullah-6.  The seal of Hazrat Fatima was fixed at 500 dirhams, 1530.9 grams of silver.  (Zawahirul Fatawa, 4/350)

 

 When the economic prosperity of the Muslims came during the caliphate of Hazrat Umar (ra), then the Sahaba (ra) began to fix many times more than the Fatemi for the marriage of their children.

 Hazrat Umar (RA) wanted to control the increasing speed of Denmohar.  He was not in favor of so much Denmahar.  But he could not because of verse 4 of Surah An-Nisa '.

 In verse 4 of Surah An-Nisa ', Allah Almighty says, "Give your wives their dowries as they please" (Surah An-Nisa' 4).

 This verse proves that the denomination can be much higher.

 Therefore, determining Fatemi for everyone without any kind of judgment can create problems - which Islam does not like at all.

 On the other hand, if the husband can afford to pay a much higher dowry than Fatemi, then by fixing the dowry on Fatemi, the wife is cheated and the femininity is insulted.  Therefore, the highest amount should be stamped on the husband's ability and not on Fatemi.

 However, in our society now Denmohar has become a horror.  The dowry must be finalized with the understanding of the husband's ability, income and determination. Attempts to collect additional dowry beyond the means of marriage are also included in the dowry.  So let's make marriage easier today by taking a stand against this horrible virus and the extra denomination.

  The arrogance of wife exhibitions and wedding photography

 When the sacrificial cow is brought, people make a lot of comments when it is like an exhibition. Some say the horn is small, some say it is big.  Some say it has legs, eyes, ears, nose, tail and so on.  This is often the case with new wives in today's society.  By keeping the exhibition as it is, the friends, the neighbors of the neighborhood are shown to the mahrams.

 If the first day of the wedding begins with the sin of such eyeballs, then how can one hope for the mercy of Allah there !!!  Decorated with thousands of make-up on their faces and sitting on the stage in a veiled manner, everyone performs similar acts of idolatry.  With video, there is photography, if there is no photography in the style of heroes and heroines, the wedding ceremony will remain incomplete !!  Well, nowadays people do not know that it is haraam to take unnecessary pictures?  How can you know the emotional joy of the moment to pull the chest?  How can one forget the command of Allah ??

 Did our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) ask us to perform the marriage in this way without veil?  There is no rule in Islam for a bride to be seen by any man other than her husband, father, father-in-law and brother.  So why aren't these rules being obeyed today !!! If our prophet was his ummah and his companions were obeying, then why aren't we obeying?  Aren't we his followers !!! Where is our society, the people of the society?  But have we brought the society back to the age of ignorance?  Where father, mother, brother, sister, son, daughter there is no difference !!  Shh ...... I'm ashamed to say these things.

 Finally,

 From the above discussion we have been able to understand that all the problems in the case of marriage are our own creation. So we can solve the problems.

 At the wedding, we throw the foreign cultures in the dustbin, pick up the circumcision at each step and carefully wrap it in the garland of Bakul, all the problems will be solved.

 And !!  It is our young society that will be able to build this garland perfectly.  So I want a little conscience.  And want some fearless steps.

 Only then will we be able to hand over to the next generation a wonderfully beautiful society.